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1970-1971 1. Back to Market-Then 24th with Jim

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I don't think we were really in the Castro Street flat for very long. At some point, Leslie moved back to the Market Street building but this time was in the upper flat. I think that she must have had a good relationship with the landlord there. I was given a tiny room in the front of the building over the doorway. It was barely big enough for a full size bed and even then, there was not enough room to walk around the bed. Partly because of my romance with Louise's boyfriend, Jim, some tensions began to arise between Louise and I. 

PCP had become popular by this time in both a tablet form and a powder form that was called "angel dust." I did not particularly like the high because it had a stong chemical taste and made me feel stupid and slow and made it difficult to walk because I couldn't feel my legs, but a lot of people loved it. Louise had a lot of it and thought it was funny to "dose" people in the house. Without them knowing it, she gave a couple of the people in the house large amounts of the drug and although, they didn't seem to mind, it terrified me that she would do this and I lived in fear that she might do this to me sometime. While these others were "dosed" on the drug, all they could do was crawl on the floor and drool. For some, I guess this was enjoyable but I wanted no part of it. 

By August 24th, 1971, I had left the room in Leslie's flat on Market to move in with Jim on 24th Street, across from the public library. 2rthstreet

Jim lived in a sort of "commune living" situation that was popular at the time with young hippies as it was very inexpensive. Most hippies shared flats in San Francisco with several room mates to cut down on costs. Every room except the kitchen and bath, would be made into a bedroom and everyone would share the expenses. Usually everyone got at least food stamps if not general assistance. In some situations, everyone would pool their foodstamps and food would be purchased for the entire house, while in other situations, each person would have their own space for their own food. In some houses, housekeeping chores would be distributed or assigned, while in others, they would get done by whoever the martyr was that was bothered by the dirt or mess the most. 

Jim had several room mates when I moved in with him. I really only remember the name of Shelly. I think that Jim's brother Lee or sister Myrna might have been there at the time or visited too? I think his old army buddy Kenny, might have lived in the house. Later Kenny would live with us and end his life in the flat on Shotwell street.

I was pretty emotionally immature at the time and socially inept and very dependent on Jim. It was my first "lover" relationship and I was insecure and jealous of anyone that took Jim's attention from me. I didn't really know the other people in the house and isolated myself much of the time in Jim's room when he was at work. Marijuana always made me feel anxious and a little paranoid too and there was always a lot of it around. Somehow I got some oil paints and a canvas and started painting a picture of Jim and I and this occupied me for a while. 

Shelly was older than Jim and I and was an avid fan of Busby Berkely and old movies from the thirties. I don't think that I had much awareness of some of the classic movies of that era. I knew who Groucho Marx was because he had a television show, but I had not really seen all the Marx brothers movies at that time. I don't think I had really heard of Mae West until then. Shelly turned me on to a whole new era of film making and gave me some appreciation of these earlier films.

Living in a house with room mates can be stressful. There are always fights about dishes being left in the sink or someone not pulling their weight or paying for their share. Jim and I finally moved to a small one bedroom apartment on 14th Street. I had a Bell and Howell "sound-o-film" super-8 camera and have some footage of a Christmas with Jim on 14th Street and a Halloween there. 14thstreet

Most of the furniture in the apartment on 14th Street came from what was salvaged by Jim from the San Francisco sidewalks. People would often just put their discarded couch or table out on the sidewalk and others would collect it for their own. One of our coffee tables was nothing more than a huge spool that had contained some sort of telephone or other wire in another incarnation. A couple of pieces may have been bought at Purple Heart or Goodwill. One of the only things that was bought new was our big queen size waterbed. 

Jim and I had two cats. Sadie and Psychedelic. There was another cat named Blacky at some point but that might have actually belonged to Louise. Jim and I also had some gerbils. 

On Christmas, we stole our tree out of a lot, late at night and ran through the streets with our booty. We blew out eggs and decorated them with glitter and made strings of popcorn.

We were deeply in love and were young and discovering that many men that had identified themselves as "hippies" previously, were not beginning to identify themselves with a new word, "gay." It may not have actually been so much a new word as it was a new identity for us. In the past, homosexuals had been defined as prancing, mincing, pathetic and desperat. Now there was a new identity as activists for sexual freedom. We frequented a bar on Folsom Steet called the Stud and it seemed like new bars were opening all the time that catered to our growing community. . I was only eighteen at the time but it was easy to get into any of the bars just by ignoring the doorman and walking past them. 

Through the 1970's, the gay scene in San Francisco was exploding. It seemed like new bars were opening all the time. In The Castro, there was Toad Hall that opened in 1971 that had a small dance floor. The Midnight Sun also opened in 1971 and was a "stand-up" bar with video. .Moby Dick would come later with it's large aquarium, Badlands with it's rough wood interior and license plates on the walls from all over the country..The Pendulum was the place for gay men of color and those that admired them. Alfies was a hot dance club on Market for a while as was The Shed and the Mind Shaft. Nothing Special really was nothing special for me. The Balcony seemed to come and go pretty quickly.. The Elephant Walk opened in 1975 and I remember Sylvester playing in a corner and the music blasting out into the corner or 18th and Castro. There were many other bars that opened in the area but these are just a few that I actually went to. 

Polk Street had Buzzbys and the Giraffe and others in the 70's. 

Folsom street had the Ramrod which opened in 1971 and I remember going their with Jim. Leather was becoming a subculture of the gay scene. There were many other bars, baths and sex clubs in The Folsom, some of which I visited, while others I just heard about: The Bootcamp, The Barracks, The Red Star Saloon, Folsom Prison, End Up, The Ambush, Hombre, The Catacombs, The Slot, The Hotel (later renamed The Handball Express), The Brig, The Arena, The Roundup (later renamed The Watering Hole), The Quarters, Black & Blue, Folsom Street Baths (later renamed The Sutro Baths). The Stables, The Trench, The Hothouse and later The Eagle.

There was a gender bending group called "The Cockettes" that were doing a new kind of theater midnights at the Palace theater in North Beach. It was a very exciting time. 

Psychedelic drugs were prominent in the youth culture in the late sixties and early seventies but I was becoming weary of them around this time. I remember one particular psychedelic experience that took place when living with Jim on 14th Street. It was in the evening and after iingestion, we had gone to Frankllin Square at 16th and Bryant. It was a little cool that night so I wore my brown leather jacket that had the fringe that was popular at the time and unique deer antler buttons that Louise had sewed onto the jacket to replace the original buttons that were not nearly as interesting. 

There is a point after ingestion when you first felt the effects of the psychedelic which was called "coming on." We arrived at the park which was just a few blocks from our apartment and in the dark of night, we sat down on the grass in the park. I started to feel I was starting to "come on" to the psychedelic and I leaned back in the grass to relax and start enjoying the effects. When I leaned back into the grass, I felt something slick on my elbow and sat up and realized what I had leaned into-- a big, fresh mound of dog excrement. I panicked. 

We immediately went back to the apartment as the night started vibrating. Rainbow colors flashed through the night air. We got back to the apartment and I quickly started running some water in the bathtub and got some detergent and put my leather jacket in the water. Just at the time that the effects of the psychedelic became more intense, I realized the mistake of putting a leather jacket in water. The night pretty much went downhill from there. 

At one point, I remember sitting on the water bed observing patterns of kaliedescopic light and color pulsating in front of me. I couldn't see anything else but the patterns at one point. Then I became I part of the pulsating light and color. I was just a part of the pattern, pulsating. I no longer existed except as a pulsating pattern within the pattern I had been observing.

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01. Introduction

03- Dads Family

03- Photos of my Father and his family

04- My Mother's Family

04- Photos of my Mom

04- Video of my Mom

04- Walling Family Reunions

04-Audio Files of My Mom

04. Billie

04. Ole

04.1. Forbidden Dreams of Love

04.2. Flames of Forbidden Love

04.3 Mom Writing Her Life Story

05- Jim Tarbert

05. Roger

1950's Grandview to Toppenish

1957-1958 1st Grade

1958-1959- Third Grade

1959- Palouse

1961- 4th Grade- Last time I wore a dress

1962- Abilene

1963- Escondido- Early 60's

1964- Darlene Marries Chuck

1964- My Beatle Haircut

1964-The Luv Please

1965 or 1966- Steve Castle

1965- In Foster Care

1966 Living with Darlene & Chuck in Seattle

1967- Juvenile Hall

1976- I Praise Thee (poem to Stanley)

1976- My Second Lover, Stanley Dunne

1976- Paul McCartney and Wings

1976-1330 Bush Street #9J

1977- 1667 Haight Street

1977- Trip to San Diego with Mary Jo

1977-1980- Tumultuous Relationship with John Perry

1978- 525 Haight Street

1979- September- Dad is Murdered

1980's- AIDS- Death and Dying

1980- Winter- First Trip to New York

1980- Word, Sound and Power

1981- Milton- Falling in Love

1982-1993 465 Waller Street

1982-1994 Computers to MacNursing

1984- 33rd Birthday

1985- Graduation from Nursing School

1985- Trip to Hawaii (Oahu)

1988- MIdnight Caller

1989- Earthquake!

1991- Aug 10th- Mom Passes Away

1991- Black Males in Oils

1991- Crack of My Life

1993- Move to Vallejo & Our First Home

1995-1. Road Trip to Washington

1995-2. Surprise Trip to Vegas

1995-3. Grandmother Rogers & Aunts Visit Darlene's

1995-4. Amber

1998- Camping at Russian River

2000 -Thoughts about Progressive Christians

2000- Resignation from John George

2001- April- Trip to Cancun

2001- Peace and Justice

2001- September 11th

2002- April-Puerto Vallarta & Blue Bay Getaway

2002- Nov 12th- My Stepfather, George McHenry Passes Away

2003- Trip to D.C. and N.Y.

2004- Feb- Road Trip to Baha Mexico

2004- Walling Family Reunion in Spokane

2005- Christmas Poem

2005- Darlene Visit for Pride Celebration

2005- Trip to Orlando

2005-1. Europe- London

2005-2. Europe- Paris

2005-3. Europe- Venice

2005-4. Europe- Florence

2005-5. Europe- Rome

2005-6. Europe- Athens

2005-7. Knee Surgery & Tongue Biopsy

2006 Christmas Poem

2006- February 23- Times Herald

2006- Palm Springs White Party

2006- Trip to Seattle

2006-July 8th Solano Peace and Justice Coalition BBQ

2007- Feb- Carnival Destiny- Our First Cruise

2007- Tre and Casey Visit

2008- Aug 15-18 Spokane Visit

2008- Psycho Song

2009- Honored by Vallejo Gay Network

2009- Women in Oils

2010 Christmas Poem

2010- Feb. R.C. Mariner of the Seas Mexican Riviera Cruise

2010- June 24- Badlands

2010- Trip to Seattle

2010-1. Europe- Amsterdam

2010-2. Europe- Paris

2010-3. Europe- Barcelona & Sitges

2010-4. Europe- Madrid

2011-1. Feb. My Fabulous 60th Birthday Weekend

2011-2. April- L.A., Palm Springs & "The White Party"

2011-3. Poem- Girl From Medical Lake

2011-4. Old Man Dancing

2011-5. May- Misty and Alex Visit

2011-6. August- Darlene and Sean's Visit

2011-7. Alex 16-18 & Pics

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2013- Wedding

2014- Christmas Poem

2014- First Gay Cruise

2014- September Road Trip to San Diego

2015- Seasonal Affective Blues

2015- Second Gay Cruise

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2015-"Badlands" and Gay Bar Etiquette

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