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1975- Sanchez to Guerrero

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sanchez1I got back to San Francisco from Europe with just a dollar in my pocket which was not even enough to take the Airporter bus into the City. Thankfully, my brother Jim, from my mom's first marriage came and picked me up at the airport and brought me to his house in Hayward, which is about thirty miles outside of San Francisco in the East Bay.. Mom had left me some cash there and I was able to rest for a few days before going back to the City. 

Leslie was still living at 1150 Sanchez Street when I got back and was kind enough to let me move back in with her temporarily. She was actually going to move to New Mexico to be with Paul, a schoolteacher she had met along the way and fell in love with. She wanted me to stay in teh apartment after she left and be room mates with a friend of hers, named Diane, but I had no intention of doing that. Diane was another druggy type and I was not interested in living that lifestyle by now. I had skills and I planned on getting back to work as soon as possble and getting my own place again.

By the time Leslie was packing for her move to New Mexico, I had got my job back at Saint Francis and one of the secretaries there, Kathleen, was moving from a flat she shared with several gay men and let me know her room was going to be available.

I moved to Guerrero street with Walter, his lover Michael and a physically disabled guy on crutches, named Dennis. I had a room overlooking Guerrero Street. 

Walter also worked at Saint Francis as a nurses aid or orderly. Neither Michael or Dennis worked. Dennis was on disability and I think Michael just got food stamps. Even though Michael worked the least and brought in the least amount of money into the house, he wanted to dictate to others what groceries to buy and what household chores they should do. He was one of the most controlling and entitled people I had ever met. Walter and Dennis were pretty easy going but since Walter was Michaels lover, he would always support Michael in his tirades.

Walter and Dennis were both gong to "fashion" school in downtown San Francisco, near Uniton Square and visits to Britex fabrics was a common occurence. I bought several shirts from the two of them, partly to support their efforts but also partly because they did pretty good worrk and their creations were unique. 

Eventually though, Michael made it impossible to go on living in the flat on Guerrero Street. He wanted me to buy the health foods that he liked which I think may have even been vegetarian and I had no interest in doing that. I was going to buy food with my money that I actually enjoyed eating. This totally frustrated him. 

The Guerrero Street flat was a lovely, huge flat in the Mission District of San Francisco. The Mission has always been a predominately Hispanic neighborhood in all my years in San Francisco. This is when I first discovered La Cumbre burritos. At that time, it was one of the only places of it's type in the Mission and certainly the best place to get a burrito. Over the years, dozens of places opened to compete with La Cumbre, but I have remained loyal to them and their fast food and still visit at least once a year.

I was still pining for Xavier in Europe and we were corresponding. One of the hot bars at the time was called "Alfies" and it was located on Market Street. It had a raised dance floor and was actually kind of dangerous if you were not carefully paying attention to where the edge of the dancefloor was. In those days, it was common for people to use "poppers" on the dance floor. This was amyl nitrate which sould sniff out of a small bottle and it would give you a bit of a rush. You would also use this same chemical when having sex. It was very popular in those days. It's use on the dancefloor stopped with the AIDs epidemic as many thought there might be a connection to it and AIDS before it was discovered that a virus caused the disease.

Eventually, I met a hot man at Alfies that was deaf. I don't remember his name but he was very cute and we had a brief affair while I was living in the flat on Guerrerro. I tried to learn a little sign language but the relationship was ultimately doomed because we just couldn't communicate very well. We were also young and at that time, nobody was ready to settle down. 

Michael would also make arbitrary household chore assignments. Since he didn't work at all or really do much of anything, he had no understanding of why anyone that did work might want to relax or rest when they were not working. I think I might have been working nights at the time but I do remember that he had assigned me to do some housecleaning on a day that I was off and I felt that sleep was more important and so he went on one of his tirades. That was when I started looking for another place to live.

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03- Dads Family

03- Photos of my Father and his family

04- My Mother's Family

04- Photos of my Mom

04- Video of my Mom

04- Walling Family Reunions

04-Audio Files of My Mom

04. Billie

04. Ole

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04.2. Flames of Forbidden Love

04.3 Mom Writing Her Life Story

05- Jim Tarbert

05. Roger

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1957-1958 1st Grade

1958-1959- Third Grade

1959- Palouse

1961- 4th Grade- Last time I wore a dress

1962- Abilene

1963- Escondido- Early 60's

1964- Darlene Marries Chuck

1964- My Beatle Haircut

1964-The Luv Please

1965 or 1966- Steve Castle

1965- In Foster Care

1966 Living with Darlene & Chuck in Seattle

1967- Juvenile Hall

1976- I Praise Thee (poem to Stanley)

1976- My Second Lover, Stanley Dunne

1976- Paul McCartney and Wings

1976-1330 Bush Street #9J

1977- 1667 Haight Street

1977- Trip to San Diego with Mary Jo

1977-1980- Tumultuous Relationship with John Perry

1978- 525 Haight Street

1979- September- Dad is Murdered

1980's- AIDS- Death and Dying

1980- Winter- First Trip to New York

1980- Word, Sound and Power

1981- Milton- Falling in Love

1982-1993 465 Waller Street

1982-1994 Computers to MacNursing

1984- 33rd Birthday

1985- Graduation from Nursing School

1985- Trip to Hawaii (Oahu)

1988- MIdnight Caller

1989- Earthquake!

1991- Aug 10th- Mom Passes Away

1991- Black Males in Oils

1991- Crack of My Life

1993- Move to Vallejo & Our First Home

1995-1. Road Trip to Washington

1995-2. Surprise Trip to Vegas

1995-3. Grandmother Rogers & Aunts Visit Darlene's

1995-4. Amber

1998- Camping at Russian River

2000 -Thoughts about Progressive Christians

2000- Resignation from John George

2001- April- Trip to Cancun

2001- Peace and Justice

2001- September 11th

2002- April-Puerto Vallarta & Blue Bay Getaway

2002- Nov 12th- My Stepfather, George McHenry Passes Away

2003- Trip to D.C. and N.Y.

2004- Feb- Road Trip to Baha Mexico

2004- Walling Family Reunion in Spokane

2005- Christmas Poem

2005- Darlene Visit for Pride Celebration

2005- Trip to Orlando

2005-1. Europe- London

2005-2. Europe- Paris

2005-3. Europe- Venice

2005-4. Europe- Florence

2005-5. Europe- Rome

2005-6. Europe- Athens

2005-7. Knee Surgery & Tongue Biopsy

2006 Christmas Poem

2006- February 23- Times Herald

2006- Palm Springs White Party

2006- Trip to Seattle

2006-July 8th Solano Peace and Justice Coalition BBQ

2007- Feb- Carnival Destiny- Our First Cruise

2007- Tre and Casey Visit

2008- Aug 15-18 Spokane Visit

2008- Psycho Song

2009- Honored by Vallejo Gay Network

2009- Women in Oils

2010 Christmas Poem

2010- Feb. R.C. Mariner of the Seas Mexican Riviera Cruise

2010- June 24- Badlands

2010- Trip to Seattle

2010-1. Europe- Amsterdam

2010-2. Europe- Paris

2010-3. Europe- Barcelona & Sitges

2010-4. Europe- Madrid

2011-1. Feb. My Fabulous 60th Birthday Weekend

2011-2. April- L.A., Palm Springs & "The White Party"

2011-3. Poem- Girl From Medical Lake

2011-4. Old Man Dancing

2011-5. May- Misty and Alex Visit

2011-6. August- Darlene and Sean's Visit

2011-7. Alex 16-18 & Pics

2012- March- Carnival Splendor Mexican Riviera with Family

2013- Wedding

2014- Christmas Poem

2014- First Gay Cruise

2014- September Road Trip to San Diego

2015- Seasonal Affective Blues

2015- Second Gay Cruise

2015- War on Christmas poem

2015-"Badlands" and Gay Bar Etiquette

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