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Tuesday, 15 September 2015 17:30

2000 -Thoughts about Progressive Christians

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I do not consider myself a "religious" person but I am interested in religion and it's impact on people and societies. Like many people reading this, I think of myself as more "spiritual" than anything else these days. As a kid, I sang in a church choir in Spokane briefly. As a teenager, threatened with Viet Nam, I explored my spiritual beliefs and came to the conclusion at that time that most religions taught peace rather than war. As an adult, I met Milton at Metropolitan Community Church in 1982, which I was attending for the purpose of singing and meeting new people rather than out of any strong convictions. Later, in about 2000, Milton and I attended a welcoming and affirming First Christian Church in Vallejo and really did feel welcomed and affirmed.


My mom was always anti-fundamentalist. She believed in science and taught her children the importance of critical thinking. I don't remember her ever attending any church. My dad was raised a Southern Baptist but I don't remember him ever attending a church service either. 

Here, I want to talk about Christianity, seekers, and progressive vs traditionalist Christians in this country. My feeling is that There is a culture war going on in this country and progressive Christians need to be on the front lines, not on the sidelines. Many people are not even aware there are "progressive Christians." I want to help answer the question "Who are progressive Christians and what do they believe?" All Christians are not fundamentalists. 

I believe that the religious right is more visible than the religious left. I believe that a large part of this visibility has to do with the religious right being more willing to use modern seeker /alternative/ contemporary/ multicultural/ multi-generational styles of worship services. I want to answer the question "Why should progressive Christians care about seeker worship and other new modern styles of worship that effectively reach the masses?"

In his book about "framing" discourse, "Don't Think of an Elephant," author George Lakoff says there are eight kinds of progressives and we all share many mutual interests and goals. 

1. Socioeconomic progressives
2. Identity politics progressives..
3. Environmentalists.
4. Civil liberties progressives.

5. Anti-authoritarian
6. Spiritual progressives have a nurturant form of religion or spirituality, their spiritual experience has to do with their connection to other people and the world, and their spiritual practice has to do with service to other people and to their community. Spiritual progressives span the full range from Catholics and Protestants to Jews, Muslims, Buddhists, Goddess worshippers, and pagan members of Wicca.

Mr. Lakoff discusses how the various types of conservatives have put their differences aside and says that the eight different types of progressives must also put their differences aside. The political right works in concert with the religious right. The political left must do the same. The political right has learned to frame the discussion in metaphors and terms that are user friendly. 

The religious right has learned to present their theology in user friendly terms and popular rhythms and this is often referred to as "seeker" worship. The religious right has been able to connect with "unchurched Harry's" and have grown exponentially while the religious left gets smaller and smaller. When the subject of "values" are brought up during elections, the religious right dominates and controls the conversation because they use media and services that speak to the masses. Sadly, the religious left only preaches to the choir. Unchurched Harry can't relate to the intellectualism or traditionalism of most liberal left churches. Unchurched Harry needs to "feel" something in church before he will be open to theological ideas and progressive concepts. 

Progressives lose if we allow conservatives to control the conversation either politically or spiritually. There are many websites about progressive Christians and there are many websites about new forms of worship. 




Broad Generalizations Regarding the Culture War

Conservative/ Right wing/ Republican/ Fundamentalist Liberal/ Left wing/ Democrat/ Progressive
Anti-science/ pro-creationism- "intelligent design"/ anti-intellectual Pro-science/ evolution/ intellectual/ pro-education
God defined with human attributes: male/ white/ angry/ jealous/ petty/ etc. God is a concept that is not defined by human attributes
Males dominate and define what women can do with their bodies Pro-Choice- women decide what can be done with their own bodies
More concerned about pre-viable fetal tissue than about real children Pro-children- for funding programs that benefit children- real "culture of life"
Anti-social programs/ pro-corporate welfare Pro safety-net social programs/ anti-corporate welfare
Big profits for pharmaceutical companies and hospital industry Pro one-payer national health care and fair access to medicine
Anti Social Security Pro Social Security
Wants Christian religion in schools and government Believes in separation of church and state
Anti-public education/ pro-government money for private Christian schools Pro public ed; Anti government $ for religion- pro separation church & state
Intolerant of those of different race, religion, class, sexual orientation Tolerant of others; embraces diversity
Intolerant of different religions- non-Christians will burn in hell Tolerant & respectful of all faiths. No condemnation of non-believers
Big emphasis on personal "sin" - judgemental Less emphasis on judging personal behaviors of others and personal "sin"
Divides black against white; men against women; straights against gays etc Unites people together
strict father model/ punishment/ obedience/ children born evil nurturant gender neutral parent model; children born good
self interest/ "me against them" attitude group interest/ "us"/ what can we do together to make things better for all?
Superficial understanding of Biblical text- literalism; Uneducated clergy Studies Biblical text in context of history, language, culture, etc.; Educated clergy
Pro capital punishment/ revenge mentality - culture of death Anti-capital punishment/ pro-rehabilitation- real "culture of life"
Teaches Old Testament "an eye for an eye"; Moses values Teaches New Testament golden rule; Christ values
Militaristic; pro-war Diplomatic; pro-peace
Rush Limbaugh Al Franken
Exploits and depletes environment; protects big oil- drill anywhere Protects environment
Doesn't "believe in" global warming- disparages "tree huggers" Comprehends the intelligence, logic and science of global warming-
Chooses big money interests over interests of endangered species For protecting endangered species

Isn't concerned about gas mileage when buying new vehicle- considers Hummer

Takes into consideration gas mileage when buying new vehicle- considers hybrid
Pro censorship- they know best what others should hear or watch Anti-censorship- pro-individual rights- right to privacy- parental rights
Talk about "values" but at same time are primary audience of Fox network trashy television shows Don't talk as much about their values or try to impose their values on others. Are the primary audience for intelligent programming on PBS.
Believe in the myth of a "liberal bias" in corporate media Understands that corporate media primary interest is profits and the "liberal bias" myth is nonsense & most corporate media is conservative.
Think that Fox news really is "Fair and Balanced" Get their news from various sources that really are more fair and balanced.
Anti-family planning & sex education which is proven to result in ignorance and more unwanted pregnancies and increased abortion rates Pro-family planning & sex education which is proven to result in fewer unwanted pregnancies and decreased abortion rates
Anti- hiv education and dessimination of info about condom use which results in keeping hiv and std rates higher than they need to be Pro- hiv education and dessimation of condoms and info about proper use which results in lower hiv rates
Wants U.S. out of the United Nations- Pro- United Nations and International Law and Diplomacy
Simplistic infantile black & white- good & bad- right & wrong perspective Understands complexities of the world, nuanced positions, critical thinking
Uses Orwellian language that means the opposite of what it says-i.e. "blue skies initiative" that is actually anti-environment Says what they mean in straight forward language that doesn't try to disguise hidden agenda
Actually buys into idea that the economy is better under Bush than it was under Clinton- think they get to keep more of their money because they are bribed with small tax refunds, ignoring the record deficits that result Can comprehend the fall of the American dollar and understand how Bush economy has resulted in record deficits and that their grandchildren will be paying for those tax cuts that went mainly to the ultra-rich.


Sunday, 31 May 2015 19:07

1995-1. Road Trip to Washington

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I don't remember much about the circumstances, but in the Spring of 1995, Milton and I drove up to Washington State. Over the years we have been together, we have gone up to Washington together several times. We drove a couple of times and took the train once. Otherwise, I fly up by myself now and then to visit.

I usually do not enjoy long car trips but we took our time driving up and back and it really was enjoyable.  When I was growing up, Roger and George and others always seemed to want to drive straight through from Southern California to Washington State, which was pretty miserable.  Milton and I took two days up to Yakima and two days back to Vallejo.

We had a nice drive to Palouse after we left Spokane.  It had sure changed in the short time since Nola and I had gone out there a few years ago.  I was saddened to see that the train station where Bert had worked was no longer there.  Several new houses had been built on what used to be Bert's property.  But it was all still wonderful to be there and reflect on some of the happiest days of my childhood again and to share it with Milton. 

Billie told Milton and I about an article in the Spokane paper about Palouse Falls and we tried to find it on our way to Yakima.  We got off the main road and drove quite a ways but I thought we were getting pretty close to Idaho and we saw some "skinheads" and it made me a little nervous as I had a "rainbow flag" bumper sticker on my car and Milton being African-American in this back country of red necks and crazy Republicans.  There was very little traffic and I was not sure if it was safe for us to be out there.  We finally came to a rock covered road- the pavement ended.  It was a pretty rough road and out in the middle of nowhere and these rocks were hitting the bottom of my car and I was not sure if my car was built for that kind of terrain so finally we turned around and got back to the main road and went on to Yakima.

A couple months after we got back, Donna Jean called to tell me that my Dads mother wanted to see us kids.  She is 92 years old and I had not heard from her for years.  Two of my aunts, Faye and Jesse, flew up to Seattle with her and they all drove over to Darlenes.  Roger came over to Darlenes and I flew up for a few days.  David, Hebert and Donna Jean were there too.  It was fun to get a little acquainted with my grandmother and aunts from that side of the family.  I have a separate story about that trip.

At this point, I had been having problems at my job as a Registered Nurse at Saint Francis Hospital.  Healthcare in California, like the rest of the country had become a mess. "Managed Healthcare" was the term of the time which essentially meant increased healthcare profits for greedy C.E.O.'s and decreased patient care.

At Saint Francis and many other hospitals, they had laid off many of the people with experience and skills and replaced them with young, inexpensive, inexperienced kids.  Some of them appear to have the same expertise as those that are flipping burgers at McDonalds.  The hospitals are making record profits but the quality of care declines and there are fewer people that can afford to get any care at all.  Although I have an exemplary record and have made many contributions to the Saint Francis, the new corporate administration has made it clear that my days are numbered.   I am sending out my resume. 

I am still doing a little computer consulting on the side at the Spinal Cord Injury unit at the Veteran's Administration hospital in Palo Alto but it has never been a big money maker for me.  Besides Saint Francis' psychiatric unit, my computer program, MacNursing, continues to run down at the Veterans hospital in Palo Alto.  

I could be wrong, but I believe that it was on this trip that I visited with Ole and Billie for the last time. 


Thursday, 28 May 2015 19:10

2000- Resignation from John George

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Patient Care Coordinator

John George Psychiatric Pavilion

Alameda County



Dear Elaine:


First, I just want to thank you for your flexibility these last few months regarding my scheduling.It has been very helpful with my transition to Kaiser but it has made this letter very difficult.  When people have been good to you, it is hard to say good-bye.  


I have been working at Kaiser or John George every weekend for most weekends of the last few months.  I have neglected my painting, friends and other interests in my life.  The forty mile commute each way is feeling longer and longer.  Although I will miss adult psychiatry and many of the staff at John George, I must hereby, reluctantly, submit my resignation.  I had already requested the week-end 2/5/2000 and the week-end of 2/10/2000 so my resignation can go into effect at that point. 






Sylvan Rogers, R.N.

Thursday, 28 May 2015 05:07

1995-4. Amber

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amber2Milton and I had talked about getting a dog at various times in our relationship. Milton was not particularly enthusiastic when I told him in 1995 that I was finally going to get one. Even though Milton was not enthusiastic, he didn't object either. 

I had done a lot of research. I knew the size of the dog I wanted. I had gone to dog shows. All of this led me to Brittany Spaniels. I love the orange and white coat that a Brittany can have. Full grown, they are a medium size dog. The are known for their intelligence. They are a hunting dog. 

Initially, I had been thinking about a rescue. I looked into the Brittany rescue website and we went and looked at several in foster care. They all looked old or unhealthy. I didn't want to start out with a lot of veterinary bills with my first dog in so many years. I finally looked into breeders and found a Brittany breeder in Napa and corresponded with her. There was going to be some pups right around Christmas. 

When we brought Amber home, at first she was a little shy and reserved. Once she got to know us and knew she was safe, she could get pretty rambunctious. She was a terrible chewer when her teeth were coming in. She chewed up everything! She chewed the inside of my car. She chewed all our wooden deck furniture. Amber

She got me out of the house on walks more often. At that time, there were more open fields around where we were in Vallejo and I would walk her and occasionally take her off leash. There were rabbits in the area and despite my objections, she couldn't help herself but follow instincts and follow a running rabbit. 

I believe people should train both children and dogs. I guess I'm in the minority because I see so many children that are out of control out in public and so many dogs that are out of control. I trained Amber not to bark when i left the house. It wasn't really that difficult and very effective but for some reason, people don't bother and you often hear dogs barking incessantly in suburbia. 

Amber was an inside dog most of her life. We have a patio and a hillside in the backyard and I trained her to do her business up on the hillside, away from the patio and house. She was very considerate. 

We took her camping with us once and she could not understand that she was expected to sleep on the ground. We had an queen size air mattress to sleep on and Amber kept trying to get on it with us. I think the ground might have been a little cold or something. She just didn't get why she wasn't her nice warm home. Every time someone walked by in the campground, she would get nervous and start to growl. None of us enjoyed that night of camping. 

Two other things made Amber very nervous- fireworks and balloons. 

We have a Six Flags park in Vallejo and they have a fireworks display every night for several nights leading up to the 4th of July and New Years Eve. Those were Amber's least favorite holidays. 

It was hilarious on the one hand to see Amber react to something as innocuous as a balloon but ultimately, you couldn't help but feel her fear. It was just one of those irrational things that any of us can have. For her, it was balloons. It didn't make sense but they totally freaked her out. 

She was an incredible, wonderful dog. Although Milton had been a little reluctant at first, he totally fell in love with her too. 

One night, Amber urinated on the floor. This was very unlike her. She kept urinating small amounts, apparently uncontrollably. At first, before i realized what was happening, I tried being stern with her. Then she started vomiting. I knew something was very wrong. I scooped her up and put her in the car and drove to Fairfield, where i knew there was a 24 hour vet. They stabilized her that night and I was to bring her to her own vet in Vallejo the next day. 

I can't remember if it was the emergency vet in Fairfield or her own vet in Vallejo that recommended out bringing Amber to U.C. Davis. They have a veterinary school there. They had better resources. I think it was there that they gave her an M.R.I. and did some other tests. The diagnosis was grim and tragic. 

It had taken Amber four years to become the amazing dog I always knew she could be. She had been a horrible puppy and a wonderful dog. She had urinary tract cancer. 

The doctors told me they could do some things but that she would have to live with a urinary catheter. There were no guarantees even if they did everything they could. The decision had to be made. 

Milton and I took Amber for one more walk in Sacramento. Even though she wasn't feeling her best that day, she still enjoyed seeing the multitude of squirrels that inhabit that part. She pulled on her leash, but not with her usual enthusiasm. Milton and I knew these were our last hours together. Our hearts were breaking. As I write this, even thinking back to that day, the feelings come rushing back. 

When I spoke to others about what had happened, some would ask if I was going to get another dog. I know that they had good intentions but I just couldn't fathom it. Milton and I were both devastated. Amber could not just be "replaced" by another dog! It took Amber four years to become Amber. How could we even consider starting all over again?

I love these pictures of her. She was so gorgeous, besides being so smart and so loving. Her hair got everywhere, though. It was impossible to get it completely out of my Nissan. Sometimes, in the summer, I would give her a buzz cut so her hair was just a half inch or so long. She still looked beautiful. And she liked being cooler. 





Thursday, 28 May 2015 04:58

1995-2. Surprise Trip to Vegas

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I think Milton was turning 40 in 1995 or maybe I just wanted to do something different, but for his birthday that year, I planned a surprise trip to Vegas. I made reservations for the hotel, where we would stay, and bought the plane tickets. The hardest part was figuring out how to get him to go to work without his car. The reason I didn't want him to drive to work that day was because I wanted to pick him up after work and head straight for the airport. I came up with some ruse as to why I should drive him to work that morning. He left his car at home. Then I came home and packed for both of us.

That afternoon, I went to pick Milton up at the Holiday Inn, on Van Ness, in San Francisco, where he as working. He didn't seem suspicious at all. He started talking about his day as usual as if nothing was out of the ordinary. We got onto the freeway at Van Ness and Dubuce and usually I would get into the the left lanes to go toward the Bay Bridge, but I stayed to the right onto 101. Milton seemed to think I was confused or something and was a little irritated, "Where are you going?" he asked. 

"I'm taking you out to dinner for your birthday." 

We drove toward the airport. 

Milton kept wanting to know where we were going to dinner. I finally told him that I was taking him to dinner in Las Vegas. He seemed totally shocked and in disbelief. It was so much fun. In another hour, we would be in Vegas. 



Wednesday, 27 May 2015 21:14

1999- From Letter to George

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I saw Darlene, Roger, Nola, Donna Jean and nieces/nephews in Seattle back a few weeks ago when I flew up to Seattle for a week-end.  I had not been anywhere for so long that finally I just had to get away even for a such a brief period.  I have been working two jobs and so 

almost every wk-end.  Trying to coordinate with my jobs and Milton and Darlene and Roger, etc, was a real trick.  I was disappointed that the one wk- end I could come up that Roger was not playing.  We still had a good time going from one meal to another.  We just ate and talked and ate some more. 

(my Seattle trip was only $100.00 round trip).  

Roger and Darlene still seem to be battling depression.  It is too bad that they have to endure it.  I feel pretty lucky that I rarely have problems with it-  usually around February if at all.  I think that for me it is related to the lack of sunshine.  Of course my birthday is in Feb as well but I donÆt think that really affects me since I have quit aging a few yrs ago and am now eternally 39 like Jack Benny.

It is hard staying 39 though.  I joined a gym about eight months ago and have lost a few pounds.  I am doing about thirty minutes a day on a stairmaster machine and also playing with weights a little.  Progress with weights seems very slow to me.  My muscles just seem to get sore but never seem to get much bigger. Oh well.  

Milton is still working his two jobs- both full time.  He is working night shift at the US Post Office as a mail handler and when he gets off there in the morning he goes to his old job at the Holiday Inn as a housekeeper.  He gets home about 6:30 and sleeps for a couple hrs and then starts all over again.  I donÆt know how he does it on so little sleep but he likes the money and has paid off his debts. 

I am working for Kaiser Permanente for my main job.  I work four six hour shifts a week.  I am an ôadvise nurseö which is totally different from anything I have ever done in the past.  I give advise to people regarding medical, pediatric and ob-gyn.  No psych!  It has been a good learning experience.  I sit at a computer and take calls and do a lot of typing.  It is interesting just because it is so different and I am learning new stuff all the time but the best thing about it is that it is in Vallejo.

I am still picking up every other wk-end at my old job at John George Psychiatric Pavilion in San Leandro.  I enjoy the change and like to keep some direct contact with psych pts since that is what I have done all of my adult life.  Sometimes I have hated it but when I donÆt do it at all, I kind of miss it. I think I am pretty good at it since I have so much experience and so I feel a little more competent than I sometimes feel at Kaiser. 

Wednesday, 27 May 2015 20:47

1998- Camping at Russian River

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sylvanambercampingMilton and I went on our first little camping trip in 1998.  I had built a bed in the back of our Ranger and bought a tent, an air mattress and some other stuff. Milton had said that he had done all the camping that he could stand when he was in the army in Germany camping out in the snow. I kind of dragged him into this so I had to make it as comfortable as possible to differentiate the kind of camping we were going to do from the kind of camping that they did in the army. Essentially I insisted that we could be comfortable without spending a lot of money on hotel/motels and then be able to take more trips.

campingOur first little experimental trip was to Russian River which is about two hours from here.  We went over a couple of weeks ago and looked at a couple of private camp grounds over there that were right on the river.  We decided on one called Casini Family Camp Grounds because you could have electricity and cable t.v. right at many of the camp sites.  I knew that the army probably did not provide those things so thought it would be a good place to start, easing into "camping."  

One of the first things that I notice though was how close many of the camp sites were to one another.  At first, I thought that several tents and trailers in a row were a family reunion or something like that but then realized that these were all separate campsites in a row.  These were strangers all packed in right next to each other.  We were lucky to find a site that was in some trees and by parking the truck in the front of the site and pitching the tent behind, we could have a little privacy.  There were trees all around us and over us.  It seemed very serene but...

The site was close to the bathrooms so late into the night we could hear the crunch of pebbles under feet as people came and went.  Each time someone crunched up the road, Amber started growling.  Also, although there were signs everywhere that people were supposed to be quiet after ten at night, there were some party animals that were pretty loud that I believe went later than ten.  I wasn't sure because I didn't have a watch but again, when they got too loud, Amber would react.  Sound really seemed to carry.  I don't know if the water somehow increases the sound or what, but we could also hear traffic from a little bit of a distance on the country road until fairly late.  miltonambercamping

Bright and early in the morning the birds nesting in the trees above and around us started screeching.  Pebbles started crunching again as people began their migration to the bathrooms.  Children started playing and making noise.  

All in all, I think someone from the City would have probably thought that this site was pretty quiet, but for us, our home is much quieter.   We realized the trade-off of trying to have electricity and cable is that you have to be close to others.  Still we enjoyed ourselves.  Amber was exhausted by the time we got home.

This has not been much of a summer because of El Nino.  It rained through most of the Spring and has been overcast many days.  I have a couple of Art, Wine and Jazz festivals I am going to do soon.  One is in Mountain View, one in Vallejo and one in Los Altos.  I have a little booth and sell art, prints, cards, t-shirts, and refrigerater magnets.  I don't make a lot of money at it but it is fun.

miltoncampsiteI am still supporting the V.A. in Palo Alto that continues to use my computer program.  I have also received calls from some of the nurses at Saint Francis, where I used to work, asking how much it would cost for me to come back there and get their system up and running again.  I have pretty much lost interest in my database stuff but have recently been thinking that it might be interesting to put it on the net.  I already have several web pages but they are not interactive.  I am thinking that I could put an interactive database on the net which nurses/hospitals could use in much the same way they did at Saint Francis or at the VA but which would require less support since it would originate at a webserver rather than locally at their hospital.   People are much more computer savvy now than when I started doing this stuff. 

For years, I would hear from nurses, "I went into nursing because I want to work with people, not computers." This was before most hospitals had changed over to the computer systems that became more prevelent years later. My program was on the cutting edge of nurses interacting with computers. Computers were not ubiquitus like they are today and there really was no such thing as "the internet" as we think of it today. Most nurses didn't type and all of their notes were hand written. My program changed that at Saint Francis, The Spinal Cord Injury Unit at the Palo Alto Veteran's Aministration Hospital. 

Wednesday, 27 May 2015 20:13

1991- Crack of My Life

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Friday night you want to go downtown,
Spend my money at all the clubs around.
Saturday night you want to do the same,
but uh-uh baby,
your driving me insane.

I can't eat,
I can't sleep at night
Your the crack of my life.
You what puts me right.

I beg you just to spend the night,
If you let me come, you know I'll feel alright.
You my drug of choice,
You know I need a hit-
your worse than crack
and all that shit.

I can't eat,
I can't sleep at night
Your the crack of my life.
You what puts me right.

I don't pop no pills- I don't drink no wine,
your my drug of choice- what makes me feel so fine.
I don't smoke no weed- inject no speed,
you the hypodermic needle that makes me bleed.

You just laugh and tease-
please, please baby put my soul at ease.
I can't eat,
I can't sleep at night-
Your the crack of my life.
You what puts me right.

My father's mother was in her nineties at the time she came to Washington State from Arkansas with two of my father's sisters. I flew up for a few days and we all met at Darlene's in Yakima. I had not really known my father's family much at all in my life. I don't remember Darlene, Roger or I ever receiving visits, phone calls, birthday cards or Christmas cards. Maybe it was because my mom had divorced our dad.

I remember talking to my mom about this when I was about 13, living in Escondido. I wondered why Darlene, Roger and I didn't have more of a relationship with my father's family and even wondered if it was our fault. At the time, I think I felt guilty for not reaching out to them more. She reminded me that we were the children and it was really up to these adults to take the initiative to make a relationship with us. I AM glad that my dad's family did have relationships with Donna, David and Hebert. I think Donna took the initiative to stay in touch with our grandparents and my dad's family and made several trips to Arkansas through her life. 

This was a great "reunion" in 1995 and much fun, although I was banned from saying anything to my fundamentalist Baptist grandmother about being gay or having a black partner, lol. I understood, as she was in her 90's. My grandmother and aunts were very sweet and I loved visiting with them. Of course, my aunts and everybody else knew that I was gay and had a relationship with an African-American. Nobody else had any problem with that as far as I knew at the time. 

As an adult, my uncle Pete and his wife, Hazel, visited me in San Francisco and years later, after Hazel had passed away, Pete and his son, Edward, joined Donna and her family and David and his family and Milton and I on a Mexican Riviera cruise. It was so delightful to spend the week with Pete. He reminded me so much of my dad and I could see where all of us get much of our humor. I am only sorry that I didn't know my dad's family better through the years. Other than Pete, I don't even know the names of many of my dad's siblings. I couldn't even tell you how many siblings he had. I have very few photos and have only had contact with Pete and Edward through the years. 



GrandmaGrandmother Rogers in her 90's


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JPEG 0300Me front left, Donna behind me, David, Darlene, Hebert, and Roger



JPEG 0275Me and grandmother Rogers with others



JPEG 0277Hebert to left. David holding Tre or Casey.


JPEG 0284Aunt Jesse



JPEG 0293Hebert on left holding Tre or Casey, wife, David












1957-1958 1st Grade- Click to read story.
2001 Trip to Cancun- Click to read story.
1967- Summer of Love- Click to read story.
My Mother- Click for more photos.
Photos of Dad & His Family- Click for story.
Where I was born- Click for story.
Palouse- Click for story
2005 Darlene Visit for Gay Pride- Click for story.
Beatle haircut- Click for story.
1974- On Larkin Street- Click for story.
1958-1959- 3rd Grade- Click to read story.
Earthquake! Click to read story.
2015- 2nd Gay Cruise- Click to read story.
5th Grade in Abilene Tx- Click for story
2001 Trip to Cancun- Click to read story.
Darlene Marries Chuck- Click for story.
Me in first grade- Click for story.
1970's Promiscuity- Click for story.
Me in my 20's in 1970's- Click for story.
Forbidden Dreams of Love- Click for story.
1973- Psych Tech Program- Click for story.
2005- Darlene Visits for Gay Pride- Click to read story.
2015- 2nd Gay Cruise- Click for story.
Grandview- Click for story
Black Men in Oils- Click to read story
My Dad's Family- Click for story.
Escondido 1960's- Click for story
1974- First Trip to Europe- Click to read story.
1973 "You have to be hurt..." Click to read the story.
Gay Disco 70's- Click for story
Second Gay Cruise- Click for story.
Amber- Click to read story.
1964- Luv Please- Click for story.
Women in Oils- Click for story
Cockettes & Angels of Light- Click for story
1982-1993 Waller Street- Click to read story.
Summer of Love- Click to read story.
Click to read "Introduction."
4th Grade- Click for story.
The Psychedelic Experience- Click to read story.
2014- Road trip to San Diego- Click for story.
Me in 3rd grade- Click for story.


01. Introduction

03- Dads Family

03- Photos of my Father and his family

04- My Mother's Family

04- Photos of my Mom

04- Video of my Mom

04- Walling Family Reunions

04-Audio Files of My Mom

04. Billie

04. Ole

04.1. Forbidden Dreams of Love

04.2. Flames of Forbidden Love

04.3 Mom Writing Her Life Story

05- Jim Tarbert

05. Roger

1950's Grandview to Toppenish

1957-1958 1st Grade

1958-1959- Third Grade

1959- Palouse

1961- 4th Grade- Last time I wore a dress

1962- Abilene

1963- Escondido- Early 60's

1964- Darlene Marries Chuck

1964- My Beatle Haircut

1964-The Luv Please

1965 or 1966- Steve Castle

1965- In Foster Care

1966 Living with Darlene & Chuck in Seattle

1967- Juvenile Hall

1976- I Praise Thee (poem to Stanley)

1976- My Second Lover, Stanley Dunne

1976- Paul McCartney and Wings

1976-1330 Bush Street #9J

1977- 1667 Haight Street

1977- Trip to San Diego with Mary Jo

1977-1980- Tumultuous Relationship with John Perry

1978- 525 Haight Street

1979- September- Dad is Murdered

1980's- AIDS- Death and Dying

1980- Winter- First Trip to New York

1980- Word, Sound and Power

1981- Milton- Falling in Love

1982-1993 465 Waller Street

1982-1994 Computers to MacNursing

1984- 33rd Birthday

1985- Graduation from Nursing School

1985- Trip to Hawaii (Oahu)

1988- MIdnight Caller

1989- Earthquake!

1991- Aug 10th- Mom Passes Away

1991- Black Males in Oils

1991- Crack of My Life

1993- Move to Vallejo & Our First Home

1995-1. Road Trip to Washington

1995-2. Surprise Trip to Vegas

1995-3. Grandmother Rogers & Aunts Visit Darlene's

1995-4. Amber

1998- Camping at Russian River

2000 -Thoughts about Progressive Christians

2000- Resignation from John George

2001- April- Trip to Cancun

2001- Peace and Justice

2001- September 11th

2002- April-Puerto Vallarta & Blue Bay Getaway

2002- Nov 12th- My Stepfather, George McHenry Passes Away

2003- Trip to D.C. and N.Y.

2004- Feb- Road Trip to Baha Mexico

2004- Walling Family Reunion in Spokane

2005- Christmas Poem

2005- Darlene Visit for Pride Celebration

2005- Trip to Orlando

2005-1. Europe- London

2005-2. Europe- Paris

2005-3. Europe- Venice

2005-4. Europe- Florence

2005-5. Europe- Rome

2005-6. Europe- Athens

2005-7. Knee Surgery & Tongue Biopsy

2006 Christmas Poem

2006- February 23- Times Herald

2006- Palm Springs White Party

2006- Trip to Seattle

2006-July 8th Solano Peace and Justice Coalition BBQ

2007- Feb- Carnival Destiny- Our First Cruise

2007- Tre and Casey Visit

2008- Aug 15-18 Spokane Visit

2008- Psycho Song

2009- Honored by Vallejo Gay Network

2009- Women in Oils

2010 Christmas Poem

2010- Feb. R.C. Mariner of the Seas Mexican Riviera Cruise

2010- June 24- Badlands

2010- Trip to Seattle

2010-1. Europe- Amsterdam

2010-2. Europe- Paris

2010-3. Europe- Barcelona & Sitges

2010-4. Europe- Madrid

2011-1. Feb. My Fabulous 60th Birthday Weekend

2011-2. April- L.A., Palm Springs & "The White Party"

2011-3. Poem- Girl From Medical Lake

2011-4. Old Man Dancing

2011-5. May- Misty and Alex Visit

2011-6. August- Darlene and Sean's Visit

2011-7. Alex 16-18 & Pics

2012- March- Carnival Splendor Mexican Riviera with Family

2013- Wedding

2014- Christmas Poem

2014- First Gay Cruise

2014- September Road Trip to San Diego

2015- Seasonal Affective Blues

2015- Second Gay Cruise

2015- War on Christmas poem

2015-"Badlands" and Gay Bar Etiquette

2015-September 8. Political History

2015- Liberals vs Conservatives

2016 Do Not Speak for Gay Males

2016- April- Palm Springs RV Adventure

2016- Not Going Along to Get Along

2016- Letter to a Third Party Voter

2016- May- Why I Decided to Vote for Hillary in the California Primary
2016- Trump Dystopia
2016- Which Democrat For President 2020?
2017 Atlantis Events Allure of the Seas cruise

2018 Vallejo Blight

2018- Favorite Folsom Street Fair Photos From Past

Earthquake! Click to read story.
2005 Darlene Visit for Gay Pride- Click for story.
2015- 2nd Gay Cruise- Click to read story.
Second Gay Cruise- Click for story.
Me in first grade- Click for story.
Black Men in Oils- Click to read story
1958-1959- 3rd Grade- Click to read story.
4th Grade- Click for story.
2015- 2nd Gay Cruise- Click for story.
Where I was born- Click for story.
2001 Trip to Cancun- Click to read story.
2001 Trip to Cancun- Click to read story.
Me in my 20's in 1970's- Click for story.
1973 "You have to be hurt..." Click to read the story.
Gay Disco 70's- Click for story
1974- On Larkin Street- Click for story.
The Psychedelic Experience- Click to read story.
Summer of Love- Click to read story.
1957-1958 1st Grade- Click to read story.
My Dad's Family- Click for story.
2005- Darlene Visits for Gay Pride- Click to read story.
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Photos of Dad & His Family- Click for story.
1973- Psych Tech Program- Click for story.
5th Grade in Abilene Tx- Click for story
Beatle haircut- Click for story.
Darlene Marries Chuck- Click for story.
1964- Luv Please- Click for story.
Forbidden Dreams of Love- Click for story.
Amber- Click to read story.
Cockettes & Angels of Light- Click for story
Women in Oils- Click for story
Escondido 1960's- Click for story
1970's Promiscuity- Click for story.
Palouse- Click for story
1974- First Trip to Europe- Click to read story.
1967- Summer of Love- Click to read story.
My Mother- Click for more photos.
2014- Road trip to San Diego- Click for story.
Grandview- Click for story
Me in 3rd grade- Click for story.
1982-1993 Waller Street- Click to read story.